Amae

First time I think what is amae for us, I think it as the action to depend on someone or something like, for example when the girl date with nice boy, girls often say "please buy Ice cream. please buy something expensive", with cute voice. Girls use this term to show her cuteness and confirm her boy friend's mind or she just do not want to waste her money, so the term, amae is obtain for all over the world. However after I read Takeo Doi's " the anatomy of dependence", my idea of amae is chaneged. I can not grasp the meaning all his words, but I can realize that amae is seen in only in Japan and Japanese people has the unique heart.